Although relationships, can be challenging. some are worth investing in and working on when times get tough. However, there are some relationships that can poison our lives.
Curious to see if any of your relationships are bad for your physical, mental, or emotional health? Check out these 10 Warning Signs You’re In A poisonous Relationship..
1. You’re always “walking on eggshells.”
If you find that you are always guarded and hesitant to say or do anything and are afraid to make any waves, chances are there is something the other person is doing to make you feel like you can’t just be yourself. If you’re constantly walking on eggshells, there’s a good chance your relationship isn’t healthy.
2. You feel worse about yourself than when the relationship began
Any relationship worth keeping should add value to your life. If all that person does is bring you down and make you feel bad about who you are or want to be, they need to go. Making you feel worse about yourself is a glaring sign that that person is not a great addition to your life.
3. Your thoughts and feelings are dismissed
The purposes of many relationships are to enrich our lives psychologically, mentally etc. It’s hard to be enriched if our thoughts and feelings are constantly dimissed. This act could also put us in a vicious cycle of striving to be acknowledged, which according to psychologists, is a bad place to be in.
4. Your partner or friend is controlling
This is probably the most telling sign of a toxic relationship. If your life doesn’t seem like it’s your own, it’s time to get out and reclaim your life!
5. You feel uneasy around him/her
Listen to your body. There’s a possibility you keep trying to hang on to the relationship and have ignored some of the other signs, but feeling physically sick or uneasy around that other person is a major warning that things have reached poisonous levels.,
6. Their happiness is all that matters.
Healthy relationships are about give and take. In a toxic relationship, this equation doesn’t exist and there might be one person whose happiness is above everything and everyone else. Just keep in mind your happiness matters too!
7. There is no give and take in the relationship
As mentioned in 6 above, a healthy relationship needs give and take; it’s not just about happiness. Give and take is also making sure there is a balance so that everyone’s emotional, physical, and spiritual needs are met. If your needs are being sacrificed constantly for the other person, the relationship needs some serious work.
8. You’re constantly being criticized.
There’s a limit of criticism a person can take before he/she breaks down. Constructive criticism from someone we trust can actually be a good thing. However, if the criticism becomes a tool to make you feel like you can never do anything right, there’s something that’s out of balance.
9. You feel you’re regularly being undermined and undervalued
A sign of a toxic person in general is that they will do anything to feel on top and in control. One way to do that is try and make those around them feel low and insignificant. Pretty soon these unhealthy traits can turn the entire relationship toxic.
10. There’s always drama.
Drama has a tendency to raise our stress levels and in turn our cortisol and adrenaline levels. While sometimes this could even be considered healthy, if it’s the norm, you’re going to burn out. If you notice that there’s always drama in your relationship, it’s a good time to evaluate why. Is there a good reason for the drama or are you or the other person not being reasonable or rational?